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 Conscious Femininity

Jung came to the conclusion that the human psyche was androgynous, it consisted of both masculine and feminine aspects. The feminine aspect of the male is called the Anima and the male aspect of the feminine is called the Animus.

As a consequence of ego-development generally being focused on gender identification, the projections and expectations of such identification within any specific culture, stereotyping, and overall the collective identification common to all cultures, can result in, the masculine element in the woman and the feminine element in the
 man to remain unconscious and undifferentiated. This generally results in these aspects of one’s psychological make up being either projected outwards onto an external
 object, or “other” or it may lead to identification with that aspect.

That is to say, if a Woman has an angry Father she may be unconsciously drawn to angry men as a romantic partner, this is perceived in psychology as being a means to heal the wound, if her Father is emotionally unavailable, she may be drawn to an emotionally unavailable man. This is the projection into the external “object” or “other”.

To try to overcome the feelings of rejection, possible self blame for this rejection; a child seeking a father’s love, can perceive his unavailability as a message that she is not good enough or she is lacking, she learns through conditioning how to do everything to try to make him available, to keep this part of him (the rejecting part) placated in the hope he will become available; she invests everything into believing this story as a defence against painful feelings; this can set her up in life to act out the need to heal this wound.

Father is the template for all male relationships. This pattern may leave her totally emotionally available to her Father in the illusion that she has a special connection with him, or it may also leave her feeling the reality of her rejection from him and the longing to heal that rejection with another. It can also leave her identified with the rejection and so rejecting of other Men, projecting her mistrust and anger onto them.

A woman may live her life in hope and in the illusion that placating or defensive anger, will offset the rejection, that it will control or keep the rejection she fears away. The anger that may underlie his unavailability, is kept managed. This is attempted at a huge cost; the price almost always is the loss of her own self, her creativity, her aliveness and very often her health. In this she gives up herself to be loved.

When it leads to identification with that aspect it may be that a woman takes on the traits of the angry and rejecting Father and acts out these parts in a relationship, using these as a control mechanism and leaving her devoid of her precious vulnerability and capacity to feel and provide nurturing, she regards her vulnerability as a weakness and it becomes repressed. This can be acted out in the home or in the workplace.

Sadly our society encourages this mechanism and uses it for its own gains, we as women fall prey to the illusion of power and control and sacrifice our femininity to the ambitious corporate world.

The same is true for the Man who may have an emotionally unavailable Mother, an angry Mother or a cold Mother; there are many complexes, which result in different archetypal figures of Mother and Father.

Although some schools of thought purport that one either projects this onto another or they identify with this way of relating, it seems more reasonable to think that the Parent is internalised into the child and this will become an internal and external complex, when we project it into the “other” …..it already is within.

This is well documented in Imago Therapy, which is used for working in relationship therapy.

I have a deep affinity with this dilemma which presents in society, who have we become as women? Who are we to each other? Whom do we serve?

We have become a society of women constantly competing with and betraying each other, we find now that the connection women once had in supporting each other is in decline; few hold its tradition. We have become less and less supportive of each other and more competitive, as this is hidden or denied we hold a shadow between us, an unspoken one as we try to deny that our relationships are becoming more of a false intimacy than a true connection.

We as women allow ourselves to be unaware, that we are blinded into the uruoborous, the serpent eating its own tail; we have colluded in the patriarchal world. We dismiss the feminine energies and intuition that is our true inheritance. Women who struggle to hold these inner feeling often considered weak, struggle to be who we truly are in a patriarchal world. We subsequently dismiss our own vulnerability, our natural intuition and wisdom, sacrificing it for blinded betrayal and seduction.

We have lost much of our intuitive dignity and our Integrity, we have taken on the roles of betrayal too easily, competing in every area, we submit our wisdom to striving for perfection; we become the Patriarchal woman, perfect woman, or superwoman. We believe that this gives us status, instead of nurturing, we often turn our backs on our selves, giving up our true essence, to prove we are capable of everything. While we pave the way for equality in the Feminist movement, we also need to stand with our true essence, our wisdom, with the reverence our ancestors had for feminine qualities, qualities that held, and contained humanity.

How can we hold both, what have we given up, and betrayed in ourselves, and how can we connect mindfully with our feminine wisdom, integrating it into our lives, while also allowing ourselves to be in the world as equals.

We need to explore ways in which we can redeem our true self and our soul nature.We must try to mediate with what the unique obstacle is which prevents us from ” being” who we truly are.

We must explore the shadow that we deny in our connection as women.

We need to look at our own template for relating as women and the source of our templates, and how we might like to change something of that. This we will do working experientially with symbols and story, using myth to bring to life deep rooted beliefs that do and don’t serve us, thus leaving us with a choice to navigate a different path to our own wholeness.

The Different nature of the female and feminine psyche must be discovered anew if women are to understand themselves, but also if the Patriarchally masculine world that has fallen ill, thanks to its extreme one sidedness is again to return to health. Erich Neumann

 

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Soul Therapy

We are trapped in a dilemma, trying to reconcile ancient myth with modern science.            Joseph Campbell points to what he calls creative mythology as the only possible response.

Creative mythology, then, is the rendition of images, of life, of poetic statements, of the orders that you perceive underlying the purposes of the world in terms of your experience.
— Joseph Campbell
We need to begin our search for meaning by looking at our ancestral past and where we have come from; by integrating the wisdom of our forefathers into our lives, questioning what we resonate with and what we reject; what we have  rejected, that took a meaningful structure with it? What comes to mind is the sense of community. Sharing stories and making meaning out of our lives.

We have almost lost the ability to allow ourselves to be part of a community with a deeper sense of meaning and support; to have a sense of belonging; now, it has become, particularly in cities, the need to scapegoat or scapegoating in the hope of avoiding our shadow. We fall deeper and deeper into meaningless, yet, I believe we just want at our very core, a simple life.

Maybe when we have explored our own foundation or core in a numinous way; to keeping or develop a reflective part of ourselves alive; then we may be more ready to embrace the world and find what we are drawn to; we may be ready for a greater sense of community, a more global sense. Otherwise we are left isolated and lonely, busy constructing houses on sand.

“Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible.”
― C.G. Jung

We must Individually do our own work; the single best thing we can do for the world is to own our own shadow parts, to look at our own personal myth and beliefs, to look at our own collective themes and beginnings. We can do this in relation to how we have been nurtured and conditioned by our collective cultural unconscious; where have we come from? What is steeped in our history which holds a rich hidden energy ready to unfold. We must do this work as a personal commitment as we thread along the path of daily living and survival. I would give up everything to immerse myself in this search but it would then instantly lose it’s meaning, it comes from us consciously living life, living the ordinary life.

“As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light of meaning in the darkness of mere being.”
― C.G. Jung
What are we now to do, how do we make this journey from here, having to navigate much in facing our demons of fear. I would wish for us all to join in a community of change, taking on the personal journey of meaning, the Hero’s Journey; navigating the dark recesses of our soul’s and taking it’s richness into our ordinary lives.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.”
― C.G. Jung.
To sift out what is genuine from what is marketing is a task, working in this field myself I have to constantly question my motive and that is difficult. We have to make a decision to work towards a place in ourselves where we no longer wish to kill ourselves prematurely, denying our soul a life, while working just to have a security that is never attainable.
We need to work with what we love, what nourishes us and what supports our own philosophy in life, in other words “What your soul needs to be Happy” What would make your soul Happy? We have to reflect on this, What have you done to survive and what have you done for your soul, they may not be separate at all but there may be something unlived that leaves you unfulfilled.

This does not mean we nourish our soul at all cost and cost to others, what is right must be correct in the sense of moral duty to those who depend on us, so rather than being trapped with moral obligation, our sense of duty and using this as an excuse to deny our soul, we need to learn to make an act of trust in ourselves to negotiate our soul need with our need to survive. We must begin this in the most simple of ways and persevere. We can build up small things in order to do something great for ourselves.
“And forget not that the earth delights to feel your bare feet and the winds long to play with your hair” 
― Kahlil Gibran,

Our soul is our Eros, our relating aspect, it needs to have real contact, real connection and to relate, this is spirituality and if we continue in our search for our spirituality keeping it split off from our material evolvement, presenting a false persona to the world and relationships, our despair will continue; this integration will not come from any guru in the outer world despite what gifts they possess, it requires that we ourselves find humility to seek it, then our guides will appear.

We must find our own individual path and cease to seek direction totally from the outside world. The Saviour is within and the greatest challenge in our lifetime is to find it.
From my own experience and it appears simple but it is a complex thing to sit and reflect on what your soul needs. I did not feel this insight was my sole privilege, but an insight into the struggle of those whom I seek from a soul place to support in finding meaning in their lives. I had spent my life prioritising other people’s needs, born from learning to keep my parents happy, if others were ok then I could relax. I carried a huge sense of responsibility for the needs of others. This left me constantly depleted, over extended and undernourished, it left others dependent on me, demanding from me and ultimately not respecting me as I had not respected my own needs.

As a Therapist, many times in a first session with a client, If I ask “What do you feel you need?” so often the answer is, “What do you mean”? We are the most intelligent of creatures, yet we rarely reflect on what we need. I am referring to needs, not wants; of course we are adept in knowing what we want.
Again as a Therapist, when a client arrives distressed about a relationship difficulty and their focus is on how to work through their difficulty, I try to emphasise that the most important relationship to work on is your relationship with yourself, defining your own needs, it is then from this place that one begins to relate to the outer world from a clear perspective, once you are clear within it will gradually influence what is without.

It is almost always adversity of some kind or other which brings us to the table of what we need and in search of our soul food; that which brings us to Therapy, or manifesting an illness of a psychosomatic or psychological type; at this point we are at a crossroads, we can use this once again to avoid facing the dark place inside ourselves which when navigated can bring the richness so longed for, or we can use it to surrender and relate to our symptoms in a meaningful way to give a voice to our ignored essence or soul

“Sweet are the uses of adversity,
Which, like the toad, ugly and venomous,
Wears yet a precious jewel in his head;
And this our life, exempt from public haunt,
Finds tongues in trees, books in the running brooks,
Sermons in stones, and good in every thing.
― William Shakespeare, As You Like It.
As human beings we are desperate to be saved from Life……… we are possibly unconscious to this, but every fear is born from the fear of death; fear of death is fear of life, which manifests in wherever the fear gets projected. Where the soul gets projected in this desperation is a matter of fate and destiny. Our destiny depends on how we deal with adversity and fate, we have not learned enough about this and while wisdom quotes are good to keep a positive mental attitude, they do not always reach the depth needed to actually change the attitude.

“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung

“What you seek is seeking you.” 
― Rumi

 

Eating Disorders

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How would you describe or define an eating disorder? And what types of eating disorders are there?

Normal eating is eating when you get hungry, this is what we do, most people have some issue with food and their eating pattern may fluctuate or vary. We all have different eating habits and these can be affected when you are under pressure or stressed, i.e. such as craving and comfort eating, losing your appetite and not being able to eat. Most people return to their usual eating pattern when the pressure, stress or difficulty passes.

In this day and age of dieting, health and fitness it is difficult to ascertain the difference between someone who has an eating disorder and a person who is simply weight conscious, somewhere within this spectrum when one becomes obsessive and compulsive in regard to weight shape and size, they are in some sense developing a complex and a disorder.

An eating disorder is a coping mechanism. It manifests when food or the control of food becomes increasingly important, leading to a preoccupation with food, dieting and control and also, becoming the most predominant aspect of one’s life.

This leads to a constant craving, either binging or starving, because you need food to live, you find yourself wrestling with control of it daily. This develops into an obsessive-compulsive disorder and addiction.

It begins as a coping mechanism to help manage or avoid difficult emotions or feelings and it gradually becomes the bigger problem, it is a management of chaos and it becomes the chaos.

Like most addictions eating disorders have both an emotional and psychological aspect. It is not just about eating habits or looks and image; there are many other factors at play, exercise, and hoarding, planning all reflecting an obsessive-compulsive cycle.

It is about controlling chaos, the control is about “Things in their outside world that they cannot control but they can control what goes inside the body.

It is important to understand that eating problems and disorders are not just about food and eating. They are about difficult issues and painful feelings, which the person may find hard, to express, face or resolve. Focusing and obsessing on food can serve as an avoidance of these issues.

As you will be aware Eating disorders can become a serious and potentially life threatening mental health disorder. It is a way of coping with anxiety, stress or trauma. What generally comes out in recovery is a trauma of one kind or another.

It is also important to note that with the onset of an eating disorder in puberty, it may also include and accompany other factors like self harm, or binge drinking, usually where there is binge eating.

If there is trauma, then Trauma survivors who have an eating disorder use food to avoid, flashbacks, nightmares, insomnia, panic, unexplained illness and extreme startle responses.

The same is true for any other substance used in addiction.

For a short time the symptoms are suppressed to escape the pain. As the body builds tolerance and both body and mind become addicted, the pressure intensifies to medicate the pain. Sooner or later the addiction takes hold, the PTSD symptoms become worse not better and lives become unmanageable. This is how the wheel of trauma and addiction spins round and round.

The only way to get off this cycle is to treat both at the same time. The first step in treatment is to understand the cause. Then you can start to build compassion for yourself rather than self-hatred, shame and judgment.

Types of Disorders.

Anorexia Nervosa:

This is when one is not eating and losing weight, who feels in control when starving and denying their cravings, not trusting their own natural instinct to survive which manifests in denying feeling hungry.

It includes meticulously counting calories or weighing food, avoid and say you hate high calorie foods, exercising excessively, hide or hoard food or throw it away, using laxatives or appetite suppressants. These are just a few of the means a person uses to control their appetite or food intake.

Dysmorphia is another major issue, which presents, this is when one perceives themselves to be fat, while it is evident to others that they are very thin. They do not trust any perception except their own.

One can end up weighing much less than they should, being physically underdeveloped, organ damage and chronic symptoms and pain.

It can lead to depression, feeling tired, unmotivated, poor concentration and changes in personality.

Bulimia Nervosa:

This is when one eats in binges and then either makes themselves sick (purging) or using laxatives. The cycle usually is to starve after purging. This can lead to out of control binging and starving, irresistible cravings, feeling fat and guilt. It swings from feeling in control when starving and chaotic and guilty when binging. It generally is a secret disorder. The weight may be normal which leaves the person isolated, as an eating disorder may not be evident.

By the time the compulsive cravings take over, rational thinking or awareness are no enough to manage compulsions. The awareness that when you purge, you are only getting rid of less than half the calories, laxatives do not help with weight loss, diuretic drugs which rid the body of fluid are no effective in weight loss.

Bulimiarexia:

This is when one is anorexic and who occasionally loses control and has sporadic binges, the frequency may vary, and severe dieting, exercising and calorie counting follow it.

The health effects of all of these disorders are very serious. A person with an eating disorder can be under-weight, normal weight or over-weight.

Compulsive eating:

Eating without really thinking about it, eating bits all day, eating to cheer yourself up, eating because you are lonely, resulting in being overweight and feeling bad.

Denying how much you have eaten or minimizing.

Compulsive eaters often deal with problems in life by denying there is a problem.

Being overweight results in health problems.

Binge Eating:

Eating large quantities of food all in one go, binges are triggered by some upset, it may be in secret and one feels out of control. It is the same as Bulimia but the person does not generally purge, they either starve following a binge or return to normal eating until the next binge.

What type of personality might suffer from an eating disorder and is it generally a female issue.

According to statistics, men are ten times less likely to develop an eating disorder, but there is awareness that statistics do not reflect the true picture, because men are less likely to seek help than women.

There is never one single cause, rather a set of different causes and factors pertaining to them, which can trigger the onset, including; personality, past experiences, attachment issues or trauma and current events and pressures. The common thread is super sensitivity, low self-esteem and fear of negative emotions.

When referring to eating disorders we talk about the three “P”’s of Eating Disorders: Here are a few examples of these.

The predisposing factors…. Which include personality, Developmental issues including insecure attachments to parents, body image issues, sexual identity conflicts, fear or lack of resources in dealing with life challenges. Family issues including attitudes to food, body image, history of alcoholism and addiction, conflict or divorce. Abuse, (physical, emotional or sexual). Trauma, including bullying and interpersonal difficulties. Loss or Bereavement, Perfectionism, impulsive characteristics, depression, anxiety and obsessive compulsive disorder, Culture, genetics and neurobiological Factors.

The Precipitating Factor is what keeps the behaviour active, dieting or starving so that the cycle continues, if you binge and you follow this with starving, then you will compulsively binge again, if you diet or starve then you will binge as the control gives way.

The Perpetuating factors are usually, lack of self worth or low self-esteem, low blood sugar, negative perceptions, stress, attitudes and conflict.

People with eating disorders are often very determined, driven by ambition and competitive, they are driven through “doing” and know very little about “being”

One may be vulnerable to an eating disorder if they have the following characteristics….

Sensitivity; picking up on other people’s needs and reactions, also the capacity to feel deeply.

Perfectionism, always demanding more from themselves and wanting themselves to be perfect, being dissatisfied with what they have achieved.

Being very competitive and comparing themselves with others, always seeing where they are lacking so striving to achieve better each time.

Obsessive and compulsive behavior and lack of confidence.

All age groups, gender, socio-economic and cultural backgrounds can be affected by eating disorders, which vary from a wide range of symptoms. Eating disorders have become quiet prevalent in our society as a means to cope with distress; consumerism promotes the negative compulsive aspect of this leaving adolescents and young women at heightened risk.

Why do people develop eating disorders? And what influence has Social values, like media, fashion, stars, and models etc. on a person suffering from an eating disorder.

Most of us have some issue with food and indeed many have issues relating to our image, particularly our Body image. This would be a common or a fairly normal. and pretty much determined by our attitude and our perceptions, perceptions often internalized from the outer world, which include being influenced by the fashion industry and styles, by media, particularly social media and peer pressure.

A person with a healthy ego will generally take in the influences and discern what resonates with their own style, define what suits their own intrinsic personality and be able to leave the rest. Some people because of having a sensitivity in their nature, not having a strong ego that discerns clearly, may be unable to trust their own intuition, about what they like or what they are drawn to, they may not be able to discern what they like because often a desire for approval, and needing to be liked brings one to sacrifice; sacrificing their own identity and take on the influences or pressure of others. This may then result in perceiving and internalizing the outer messages about their identity and image, and trying to live up to what that message is, or what they believe constitutes being acceptable or even ok.

So they start to feel they are not enough, they have not achieved enough, they didn’t give enough, do enough etc. It is all about “enough” Am I enough, well society tells us we are never enough, if we are told to do our best, then, if we have no measure of what our best actually is…. This is a dangerous affirmation, as one could have perceived perfection as only best! They begin to compare themselves to the standards of others, including the external messages, competing with this becomes a never-ending cycle. It gets out of control and what started out with a diet or a wish to lose some weight becomes a competitive obsession.

At the other end of the scale one may begin to give up and binge. The underlying issues are the same. The cycle continues, controlling the control then becomes a cycle until one only feels in control when they are actually out of control. I.e. The anorexic feels and believes they are in control while starving, but they are actually out of control.

I have rarely worked with anyone who manifested an eating disorder because they wanted to be beautiful; it is more that they try to compensate for their perception of themselves as not being beautiful.

People more prone to eating disorders generally have a sensitive and caring nature, are highly intelligent and are often very intuitive, it is as if they are frightened of this potential. This is often described as a fear of growing up, particularly because it most commonly develops in early puberty. This creative energy may cause them to feel chaotic inside, and not being able to contain their thoughts, drives or anxieties and they turn to food as a comfort, and feel in control if they are managing this. They are in a sense frightened of their own power and potential, often in an effort to hide this and fit in, they hide themselves behind food, weight and size.

An eating disorder manifests when we try to control issues through dieting binging. It is important to understand that an Eating disorder is a coping mechanism.

Society suggests that to be thin is not only desirable but also essential for happiness, success, approval, love and attractiveness. It seems to be more and more acceptable for dieting or exercising to dominate people’s lives. You will see images of “perfect” people being presented on TV and in magazines, with no reality what this image entails or means. Women are expected to be thin and men muscular. These images are there as an influence from an early age and if one is already vulnerable, the pressure from society to be like celebrities or to conform to an idea of perfection may make an eating disorder worse. These messages lay the groundwork for people to pursue behaviors with their body, which can be destructive.

It is important as a response to protect oneself and counteract against the various messages we are bombarded with to develop a strong sense of self.

What happens when somebody comes to therapy with eating disorders? How do you treat them?

Conventional medicine, and its approach, regard eating disorders as a mental health issue and possibly a pathology, and yes it can develop through entanglement from an obsession into a pathology, but I am more inclined to believe from my experience that it is an emotional health issue; prolonged persistence in regard to it moves it into a more complex issue as one becomes or can become entrenched in it and dependent on it to cope and survive. This would be why early intervention is imperative to break the cycle.

It is important firstly to assess the person to see if therapy can help. If the person were very underweight it would be remiss of us to not strongly insist on medical intervention prior to treatment. In fact it is always important to advise one to speak with and keep contact with their Gp, one could also if the assessment proved necessary, advise consulting with a Dietician or Nutritionist.

This is why it would be ideal to have an addiction program me separately for Eating Disorders. Working with a multi disciplinary approach and focusing on all aspect of recovery.

As therapy is generally only one hour weekly, it may be very important to include medical support or family support.

I take the approach of using the addiction model, working with acceptance and change, understanding the addiction aspect to this helps the person gain insight and awareness of their condition. It also gives them an objective perspective, which enables them to begin to feel they are capable of managing.

Learning to manage rather than being driven by their addiction and anxiety is important.

It is the obsessional energy that drives it — and all obsessions are rooted in anxiety.

Treatment needs to include working with and supporting them to manage and understand their anxiety. I work with both the food issue and emotional issue in each session, in managing the eating disorder, it is more working with the present, using CBT skill and Reality Therapy from the Person Centered approach; while also using Psychodynamic skill and Body Awareness techniques to look at the deeper patterns that underlie this condition.

The Therapist needs to assess; What is it one is surviving? What are the stressors? What relief does it give and from what?

Food is symbolic of nourishment, Mothering and food are symbolic of nourishment and eating disorders are very symbolic and reflective of our society, how we nourish ourselves. It is symbolic of a protest in the person, a statement that something is wrong?

Our relationship with food mirrors our relationship with nourishing ourselves; depriving, comfort eating, mindless eating and bingeing, or fluctuating between cycles of all of these.

Bulimia then can be seen as accepting and then rejecting.

The emotional complexes bound up with food often hold the feelings that are too painful to allow or not acceptable to express, these include trust, guilt, fear, and trauma, inadequacy self hate. Etc

Their particular way of coping, determines the pattern that presents in the eating habits or disorder. Obsession with food represents the anxiety that they are trying to cope with.

Needs are the specific issue tied up in eating disorders, often the person has no sense of their own needs, deprive themselves of their needs because they do not feel deserving, put the needs of others first because they have learned that the needs of others are more important and their needs are not, becoming caretakers, they then repress and hope that their need will be met as they meet the need of the other or that they will be acknowledged because they attend to the needs of others, using their intuition to anticipate or discern what is being demanded.

This leads to an addiction to perfection,

“There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.” Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral’s Kiss

Addiction is a coping mechanism. Addiction to drugs, alcohol, prescription pills, business, work, shopping, food, gambling, sex and so on. You can become addicted to almost anything. As Gabor Maté states, in order to treat addiction we have to first understand its purpose.

“It is impossible to understand addiction without asking what relief the addict finds, or hopes to find, in the drug or the addictive behaviour.” Gabor Maté, In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts

Like all addictions, the addiction to food, weight size and shape is about control. Because it relates to the body and image there is within it an addiction to perfection and idealism. No addiction is good not even addiction to idealism.

It has brought us to a world of demand and narcissism. Nothing is enough, the core belief in eating disorders is “I am not enough” society mirrors this message and nothing I do is enough, so I will fade away and disappear or I will hide behind weight.

“I do not want to be seen because I am not good enough” This may be a core feeling behind a very accomplished person.

So what is the perfect body and what is the ideal body. Youth and beauty… the Holy Grail

Addiction can run in families and research shows us that if you have immediate family members who are addicts, then you have a greater than average chance of becoming addicted as well. Addiction serves a purpose, and that purpose is to reduce or numb or avoid pain. It may work… for a short time. The original pain comes back again and with it comes a host of new problems brought on by the addiction – financial problems, relationship problems, problems at work, or health problems. Pain and addiction are a feedback loop, each one reinforcing the other.

What causes this pain? It can be life circumstances such as a broken family, parental divorce or death of a loved one, or loss of a job.

But more often there is a relationship between addiction and pain carried from childhood that has stayed into adulthood.

Where can a person get help and whom can they contact if they are experiencing or are concerned about any of the symptoms discussed.

BodyWise is an agency that provides a lot of support, information and advice and also groups for people including families and partners of a person with an eating disorder. They generally refer people to a counselor or psychotherapist.

The Eating Disorder Resource Centre of Ireland gives advice counselling and literature on eating disorders for people with this issue and also their families.

Many Addiction Treatment Centre’s now take clients into their programs, treating them from the addiction perspective and model.

There are a number of Hospitals who also provide specific treatment clinics and units for Eating Disorders, delivering programs for treatment.

If you are interested in seeking an appointment or participating in a group please contact Attracta on 087 8330902 or email attractafahy@gmail.com or info@attractafahy.com.

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Mindfulness through Bodymind awareness:

Without Religion or Spiritual Masters to guide us we must find our way through often lonely and traumatic paths. Our vulnerability as a human condition, our environment, and our experiences, can at times present as a difficult fate. Our deepest beliefs may be tested if we are not supported to embrace and make meaning of these trying events or experiences, and if we do not have the guidance to steer our way through difficult paths in an empathic way, they can manifest in illness, addiction, and an unrealistic pursuit of happiness.

Discover how we can bring real change to patterns that prevent us living without inner peace.

In the spiritual practice of Mindfulness, we experience being informed through understanding the art of living in the present, skilful in knowing how to retreat or return to our own inner centre, from this we learn the practice of how to connect to our world through nature, and how to become compassionate, aware and attentive to others as well as oneself.

Develop skills to support us to manage stress, relieve anxiety and improve our mental and emotional capacity in our everyday lives and relationships

Learning to habitually include simple meditation along with a supportive philosophy, help’s to navigate and find meaning in the challenges of life. Conscious practice brings deep and lasting changes, which bring positive influence to your life.

Mindfulness classes begin late September; both Morning and Evening.

 contact Attracta on 087 8330902 or email attractafahy@gmail.com or info@attractafahy.com.